Chapter 1: His Wife Book Club Review
Like many of you, I started my reading ‘The Power of a Praying Wife’ like “yes, LORD!” Let’s get my husband together! We are about to create the perfect man.” I figured, hey! I have God on my team so this is going to work greatly in my favor. Wrong!! Stormie (the author) got me together real quick! The first prayer started with “Change Me, Lord.” I literally had a face - palm moment, this isn't starting off the way I intended. As far as I’m concerned, I’m doing MOSTLY everything I should be doing as a wife, however, that’s not exactly what is happening here in chapter 1.
“The most effective tool in transforming him, may be your own transformation”
Alriiiiiiight, I hear you Stormie! I don’t like it BUT I hear you. She really highlighted some very valid points and was able to support it with scripture. I experienced so many convictions through my reading. I remember there were times in my marriage, when my husband and I would have an argument in which I felt he treated me very unfairly. As a result, I would take it to God in prayer and it was always with the intent for God to punish him for treating me the way he did in that moment.
“If you pray for yourself and not him, you will never find the blessings and fulfillment you want, what happens to him happens to you and you just can’t get around it.”
What happens to my husband, happens to me? This concept truly convicts my heart and what I am praying for my husband to experience as a result of my anger, even if I feel strongly justified of my emotions in that moment. However, whatever he experiences has a direct impact on me.
“Tear down the wall of hardness around my heart and show me how to respect my husband the way you want me to. Give me your heart for him, Lord, and help me to see him the way YOU see him.”
Isn’t that a powerful prayer? The author helps us to understand that we need to soften our hearts before we go to God. He doesn't respond to a heart of anger but one that's filled with love. I realized that in those moments of anger, I was praying for the wrong thing. It’s almost as if I was that sibling running to my parents (God) about something my sister’s (husband) did to me and asking them to pick my side as if their love for me is stronger than the love they have for my siblings.
That was truly the wrong approach because God loves my husband just as much as he loves me. Now, when I approach God in prayer, I need to do so with love. I totally get where Stormie was going with this. “Change me, Lord!” because instead of me praying about what my husband did wrong, I need to be asking God to give me a heart like his so that I can love my husband in that moment despite the fact that he has wronged me.
“When we live by the power of God rather than our flesh, we don’t have to strive for power with our words. For the Kingdom of God is not in word but in power.” (1 Corinthians 4:20)
“A wife can win over her husband without saying anything, because what he observes in his wife speaks more loudly than what she tells him. (1 Peter 3:1-2)
Stormie has truly touched every area and emotion I have every experienced with my husband. What’s so interesting about my prayers, is that I realized how much it was a direct reflection of me than it was of my husband. While God will hold my husband accountable for his actions, because my God don’t play about me! (lol) he also holds me responsible not only for my actions but my re-action towards my husband or anyone else for that matter. There is still a direct relationship between me and God; I am responsible for walking in his light, always.
“I’ve known people who use the excuse of “Just being honest” to devastate others with their words. A fool vent all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back. Part of making a house a home is allowing your husband to be the head so you can be the heart.”
I hope that you all have made your purchase for the book and study guide. This is truly one of those readings that you can’t just rush through and put down. For me, it has become a tool that can be used as a constant reference throughout my marriage.
Hope this has been a blessing to you all, feel free to leave your feedback in the comment section below or in our Facebook group. If you still have not made your purchase do so now through the links included in this blog for your convenience.
Talk to you all next Sunday for our Chapter 2: ‘His Work’ blog review.