How has the past 27 years of life been for me? Hmmm… let’s see… emotional, scary, confusing, beautiful, lonely, exciting, hurtful, amazing, overwhelming, challenging, graceful but most importantly it has been filled with God’s favor and his unwavering, unconditional love. I am so happy about everything that has happened to me in the past 27 years of my life. I am so proud of the woman that I have become. Yes, I know, that may sound overly confident but it has taken me a VERY long time to get here. Life has taught me how to celebrate myself more and how to be my biggest cheerleader, because those skills will be key as you carry-on life’s journey. I wanted to leave you all with 27 wisdom nuggets but that would be a book. Since this is a blog, I decided to leave you with 7 key thing that I have learned in my adult life.
God Is So Faithful – I would lose count if I tried to list the amount of times I doubted God, out of fear. Fear of failure and the unknown, however, in Luke 17: 5-6 “the apostles said to the Lord, increase our faith!” And then the Lord answered, “If you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, be uprooted and planted in the sea” and it will obey you.” I am so glad that all it takes is faith the size of a mustard seed, because sometimes the flesh will make us forget that this is the same God of Moses, Abraham, David and Joseph. He is still parting seas, knocking giants and accomplishing what man considers impossible. Approach your destiny with faith the entire way.
Fear Isn't So Bad – While others may say fear cripples (it can, if you let it) my fear gives me power. I remember watching a documentary on Ellen DeGeneres and she spoke about accomplishments and achievements in the world of television. She said something that really stuck with me; “I didn’t do it because I was fearless, I did it in spite of the fact that I was fearful.” Many times we see people walking in their purpose and it looks like they have it all together. The way they speak, the way they approach life and accomplish tasks, they all look so unstoppable but if you were to have an intimate discussion with whomever you admire most you may be surprised at what they have to say.
Be Bold In Your Weakness – “But he said to me, my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9. I am so glad that in everything I do, God gets the credit because truly, I know that it was not on my own. I am so happy when he shows up on my behalf because he doesn’t do a messy job, he doesn’t cut corners and he is going to do it in such a way, you will have no doubt that it was him.
Be Transparent– We live in an information age, and that simply means, the rapid advancement of technology, social media platforms and easier access into the lives of others, no matter how near or far. While most like to portray the perfect life, people are more drawn to transparency, it is more relatable and it allows others to let their guards down in their approach. You will find that if you were to get a few people in a room, in a an intimate setting, folks start talking and then people start to appear more human and well… that’s when the magic happens, friendships are built and before you know it there will be a community of folks behind you cheering you on every step of the way, that’s how it happened for me.
You Teach People How To Treat You – As life shapes who you are, you start to learn a few things about yourself; you start to accept your flaws and most times you even start to fall in love with them because that’s what makes you who you are. When you value who you are, you become more protective of it. As you reflect on the break-downs that came as a result of your darkest days, the strength you had to find to rebuild; bad friendships and relationships, hurt or loss of a loved one, depression and varying mental illnesses. When you have fought to become who you are now, you are less tolerable of negative energy and those who no longer contribute to your purpose. It’s personal and it should be.
Be Intentional – Thanks to my marriage which requires us to be intentional daily, I have found that I am more intentional in other areas of my life. My friendships, I’ve started to pour more into my friendships and as a result I have received so much more out of them. We talk more, we celebrate milestones, we send constant encouragements, we pray more but most significantly praying for each other even when we aren’t present. I’m so pleased to know that my friends go to God on my behalf and they will go through spiritual warfare simply because “they don’t play about me” that is truly a blessing and it all came from being intentional.
Be You – Understand that many of us go through so many phases in search of finding who we are. That changes over time, life happens and as a result you also transform. Embrace those changes as they happen; the sooner you do, the sooner you start to attract the right kind of friendships, relationships and your best life. Be honest with who you are, at whatever phases you are in, there is so much freedom in just being your genuine self.
Happy 28th Birthday to Me! =)